My kids are all varying ages. Having kids at each stage of life is fascinating and completely chaotic at the same time. They all have different relationships with each other because of their ages too.
My toddler will be 2 in January so I'm reaching the terrible twos stage. She is in that inbetween stage where she's still a baby in many ways but is starting to act like a little girl at times.
My 10 year old daughter keeps acting more and more like a preteen. Last week I was dancing in the living room and she said to me, "Mom, don't embarass yourself." A few days ago her coat needed washed and when I suggested she wear her brother's for the day she said, "That's not happening." Where has my little girl gone?
My 13 year old son has his first crush. He's been navigating how to talk to and ask out this girl. So far she hasn't broken his heart but he's not sure if she feels the same way so I'm hoping he doesn't end up "crushed."
My 19 year old daughter plans on moving out at the end of this month so I will have two adult children living away from home. She will only be living about 20 minutes away. I thought since this is the second time I've experienced a child moving out it would get easier, but it's still bittersweet.
My oldest is now 21 years old and still lives in Florida. He was talking about moving back home to Indiana but then he got a serious girlfriend so he plans on staying in Florida. He will be visiting at the end of the month after Christmas. He can only stay a few days because he got promoted at work to manager. We talk at least weekly but this will only be the second time I have seen him in two years! He's also only met his baby sister once when she was almost one!
Despite the chaos and differences, the best part of having younger and adult children is that it's easier to visualize my younger children as teenagers and adults. I'm able to see the results of both the mistakes and things I did right with the older ones and apply the lessons I've learned to raising my younger kids. It sometimes feels like I have to do mental gymnastics though because I'm discussing going to the bar for the first time with my oldest child while changing the diaper of my youngest.
I also worry sometimes about having a child so much younger than the rest of her siblings. Will she end up feeling like an only child? Will they always treat her like a "baby?" She's closest to her 10 year old sister but will she eventually feel more like a mother-like figure than a sister? Will she know her older siblings well if they all have moved out? Will she be an aunt before she's even five years old? Only time will tell.