In today’s world, blended families are nothing new. It is common for a bride or a groom to add a child to the union. This has seen many youngsters participating not just in the entrance portion of the wedding ceremony, but as other active participants in the wedding. Now, sons and daughters are junior bridesmaids and groomsmen, they read passages for the newly joined parents and help with other parts of the ceremony. One favorite section of the ceremony that people love to have their children participate in is lighting the unity candle.
Lighting the unity candle has become a popular part of the wedding ceremony. When couples light the candle, it is supposed to symbolize the joining of two people and two families into one. The usual manner in creating a unity candle ceremony is to have one large candle surrounded by at least two smaller candles. However, people who have been including their children in the ceremony have either had one smaller candle for each child and everyone lights the candle at the same time.
Another method is for the children to light their respective parent’s candle which the bride and groom then use to light the large unity candle. This can represent the coming together of individuals who will contribute to the formation of loving family filled with affection and joy.
Sometimes the service combines the popular sand ceremony with the unity lighting ceremony. When this happens, the children pour sand into the candle’s vase to signify that they will be the base of the family and to show that they are joining together to become one. Sand and unity candle ceremonies are now included in innumerable wedding ceremonies, especially because many modern families are blended.
Incorporating children into a couple’s most important and happiest day of their lives signifies to them that they are important in the union as well. Children want to know that even though a parent has found love and they are gaining another parent, they are still valued in their relationship. Many couples choose to have their children included in the unity candle ceremony to symbolize this, and the gesture is a great way to assure their children and share with them the warmth of the new family.
Written by Heather Bell from SimplyBridal